Everyone knows that raising children costs a lot of money, what ‘s more, if you don’t have a good economy, many parents prefer to wait until they have good financial stability before having children. But in addition to this, it is necessary for parents to take into account that after meeting the basic needs of babies and children, spending more money on other things can be extra or superfluous expenses.
It is not easy for parents to deprive children of things that can make them ‘happy’ even momentarily, when the instinct of parents is to do everything in their power to keep them smiling.
Feeling of protection
When a baby is born to parents a sense of protection is awakened towards their precious baby. As your baby grows, you will need to develop sufficient capacity and skills to bounce back from life’s frustration and setbacks. This will only happen if the little one experiences the disappointment of not always having what they want.
But for many parents it is not easy to prove to children the things that ‘make them happy’. It is necessary that as parents, keep in mind that material things do not really make your children happy, happiness resides in unconditional love and in the moments lived. For this reason you will have to take into account some tips.
When children see their parents spending money excessively, whether they can or cannot, they internalize the message that more is better. You need to make sure your kids see that after looking at something in the store that you like, you put it back on the shelf because you can’t always have everything you want. You can like something without having it.
Be honest with yourself
What is it that really motivates you to buy your children so many things? Do you somehow make up for the way you were denied things as a child? Do you think you buy things from them because you feel guilty about not spending enough time with them and make up for it to feel better? The sooner you discover why you spend so much money on your children, the sooner you will be more able to say ‘no’ to them the next time they want something they don’t really need.
Eliminate the sense of entitlement
Children develop a sense of entitlement when they get used to getting what they want, expecting a ‘Yes’ when they make a request with a ‘please mom, I promise I won’t ask for anything more if you buy it’. Obviously it is a lie but because they are used to having what they want when they want it.
It is time to eliminate this sense of entitlement and for your children to learn to earn the things they want and not to get it without lifting a finger. They can perform extra chores from their household chores at home or earn some privileges with a point table. The effort is what is rewarded.
Trust your instincts
There is no indicator that will sound an alarm every time you cross the line about being generous or spending too much on them. It is not so easy to know exactly where the boundary line is. It is necessary that you begin to listen to your instincts and to heed it when something tells you within you that this is too much.
There are other ways to pamper children healthily
To pamper children and show them all your love and affection, you don’t need to spend too much money on them, nor do you need to buy material things for them. It is only necessary that you look for moments to spend together, to enjoy board games, to laugh together and to go for a walk. Tickle each other, read a story together before bed, hug each other … these ways are ways to pamper your children who, in addition to being healthy, they need it.
You never spend too much on love!